I know I always write about the struggles we face and the changes made in our lives by rheumatoid arthritis but this time, I want to say something a little different this time. I want to talk about something that we all need and love from time to time, “That something is a HUG”. Continue reading “RA – Facing The Struggles of Rheumatoid Arthritis – The Beauty of A Simple Hug – What It Can Do For You”
My life, my illness and my love, these are all the things that are important to me and are the things that are intertwined that all work to make my life what it is. My life has its difficulties but it also has its beauties. Continue reading “RA – Rheumatoid Arthritis My Life, My Love and My Illness – How Do We Make It All Work”
For each of us with rheumatoid arthritis I’m sure at some point have dealt with depression. It slips in on you when you least expect it and it can be mild or overwhelming. Either way, it takes it hold on you.
Depression has it’s meaning, feelings of despondency and dejection but I think in our case it’s a feeling of being overwhelmed, thoughts of going through something that we have no control over at any time and dealing with pain everyday. This brings on a sense of “what can I do”. It’s a feeling of why is this happening to me and why do I have to go through this. We may or may not be despondent or feel dejected but I know we get so overwhelmed that we find ourselves feeling lost as we struggle to put our situation into perspective. We know this is what we have to deal with but there are times we lose our way. Continue reading “RA – Rheumatoid Arthritis The Catalyst For Depression – Fighting For Your Emotional Self”
Having rheumatoid arthritis we all need support and understanding and we will seek it most from those closest to us, our family and friends but mostly family. We need these in order to make what we’re going through less painful both emotionally and physically more bearable as we carry on through our lives. Continue reading “RA- Your Rheumatoid Arthritis – Is Your Family Hiding Behind Your Illness – Is It Too Much For Them To Bear”
Spinning out of control, is this what rheumatoid arthritis have you feeling like. Your life is spinning, you can’t stop it and all you can do is hang on for the ride. What is the ride? It is the trek down the long winding road of uncertainty that’s filled with the ups and downs of RA. Continue reading “RA – How Do You Handle It When You Feel Rheumatoid Arthritis Has Your Life Spinning Out Of Control”
When you were first diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis I’m sure the news was devastating. Your life as it stood would be changed forever. You had to come to terms with the fact that so much of what you did and knew maybe gone. Realizing that your walk through life as it once was may no longer be. It maybe a little slower or it may even be with a walker but a walk through this journey we had to continue. Did we feel like so much was coming to an end! Yes we did. But in turn we knew we had to learn how to turn that end around and make that challenge to start our new beginning. We had to learn ways to cope and how to make a tough situation better. Continue reading “RA – Rheumatoid Arthritis The Fight From The End To Beginning – Learning How To Start Over”
Yes we know we have our struggles and we also know there will be a few good days and for those we are so grateful and do not take them for granted. Some sufferers have them more than others, they are the lucky/blessed ones. We know what drive our lives these days because it is built around rheumatoid arthritis. By that I mean what our bodies will allow us to do from day-to-day is written by this disease.
Do we want it to dictate our lives? No, we surely do not. And surely we do fight back with a vengeance because that is what we’ve learned to do. So to make our days work, we almost have to plan ahead. What does that mean! We don’t do much the day before, we try to get to bed early or make sure we’re resting properly at night if that’s possible hoping that will make our next day/tomorrow better. And then there is tomorrow. How does that go, it depends. There’s a good possibility that we might get lucky and have a rare pain-free day. That’s what we’re hoping and working hard for or should I say working less for. You see working too hard for us brings on that dreaded pain that we fear. Continue reading “RA – Building Our Lives Around Rheumatoid Arthritis – The Fight To Keep It Strong”
For the many, many things we go through with rheumatoid arthritis, there are those times that we have to take for ourselves and evaluate our situation. That includes the depression we all go through which can include our moments when we break down and have ourselves a doggone good cry. This I will call our grieving time.
There we have it, grief. It is known as a feeling of loss and boy do we have a lot of that with this disease. We can’t count the ways with these 10 aching and swollen figures of ours. The loss we suffer isn’t just to our body and mind but for those family and friends who felt this was all too much for them, those who couldn’t live with what we’re going through or those who just didn’t have the patience to ride along with us on this journey. This is our grief and why we have those moments or hours of breaking down. Continue reading “RA – Rheumatoid Arthritis Grieving For Yourself – Are You Being Considered Weak – Go Ahead And Grieve”
Since being diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis, have you looked at your life and saw where you once were and where you are now and wondered to yourself “What Has Rheumatoid Arthritis Taken From Me. The long struggle that we all have faced and is facing has taken its toll on us and has taken many things in many ways from us along the way and has given us challenges that only the strong can survive.
Has it taken away your independence, the way you use to run up and down the stairs or run outside with your children or your pets, or the ability to even pickup your children. Has it taken away your walk around the yard or the time you use to work in the yard. Maybe even the jog around the neighborhood or the track for the exercise that you loved so much.
Well this is part is not about being vain, but has it taken away your lovely hair, the way you use to pull it back from your face or the way you once wore it curled, straight or maybe in a natural afro style. That once gorgeous hair is now stringy and falling out to your amazement. How about those 3-4″ heels you once wore with those wiggle skirts or 2 piece suits or that pretty dress that you knew you looked good in. You can’t wear those heels anymore because your feet are swollen or your toe joints are not as they should be and those skirts, dresses and suits may not fit anymore because the medication has caused you to gain weight that you never expected. What about that 5 million dollar beautiful smile that you had that everyone talked about when you came into the room or saw in your pictures. It maybe gone because the inflammation has taken a toll on your mouth joints or the dry mouth has cause many of your teeth to be pulled so now your smile has faded if you hardly smile at all. Now maybe your gorgeous rings don’t fit anymore because your fingers are swollen or deformed (I hate that term) but you all know what I mean. You may try day after day to see if they may fit if it’s only swelling you’re dealing with. Oh yes, don’t forget that pleasing personality that we once had that may now be replaced with depression and sadness that has us looking for that ultimate goal of support and understanding. With these we might be able to give somewhat of a smile to those around us in hopes of their continued support. If we are lucky enough to keep it, we are so Blessed. Continue reading “RA – What Has Rheumatoid Arthritis Taken From From You Me And Us”